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Empathy, Empathy, Ever-more Empathy

By , May 23, 2013 4:02 am

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Empathy is an extraordinarily important natural virtue. Empathy is the quality or condition by which a person, when seeing pain and suffering in the lives of others, can enter into that suffering so powerfully that he or she actually experiences (to a limited extent) what the suffering person is going through. While this is a great virtue, and countless numbers of people exercise it very well, when crises develop and tragic situations arise, there ought to be a more universal and generous response than is actually the case. To a great extent, that response can be measured directly in terms of the media presentation. The last time I saw a count, more than $30 Million had been sent to aid the victims of the Boston marathon, while the much more extensive, agonizing and destructive explosion in West, Texas, had not yet generated a million dollars in donations.

What will be the response to Oklahoma tornado tragedy?

The destruction is beyond imagination. While fatalities and even injuries were relatively low given the massiveness of the storm, the destruction of homes is simply unbelievable. Fortunately, virtually every tv network has been posting telephone numbers and internet links to accept even ten dollar contributions. Can you imagine the effect on the suffering people of Moore if half of the employees in this country sent in their $10? The media people are right to ask us for such a low, managable amount, to encourage everyone to participate, but unless the viewers act on their empathy, we will be left with them shaking their heads and saying “what a shame” but not acting on it.

Empathy exists in the human heart. Shouldn’t we extend it, in this case, to an entire nation? Please consider reaching out to these now homeless and desperate citizens of Oklahoma. I believe empathy generates great returns in God’s divine bookkeeping. Remember our Lord’s words, “Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.”

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A Great Step Forward

By , February 7, 2013 4:48 am


There are two extraordinarily important agencies operating in Austin that are desperately needed in our city and deserve the support of the entire community. I am referring to the Austin Children’s Shelter and “SafePlace.” Both are extremely important and, regretfully, sorely needed. SafePlace provides shelter to women and children who have suffered through domestic violence. Austin was one of the first cities in the United States to develop such a program, and we can be very proud of it but we must support it ever more effectively. Austin Children’s Shelter is just that. It is a program that welcomes children who for one reason or another are vulnerable and in difficult straits. Sometimes it is due to violence. Sometimes their vulnerability is caused by sickness, death or even incarceration of the parents.
These two wonderful groups are now coming together to develop an alliance that will allow them to offer new programs to clients, combine their voices to advocate for change and share costs. Their first joint effort will be entitled LIFT. Their first project is the charter school located on the SafePlace campus. It has been operating for years as a K-8 school and is now adding 9-12. This is truly wonderful.
The existence of these two agencies is based agonizingly on need. That need flows from the tragic presence in our culture of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. Last year 102 women and 246 children were murdered in Texas by family members. As ghastly as these figures are, they do not begin to measure the misery, the suffering, the psychological imprisonment that goes on in tens of thousands of Texas homes where women are trapped in abusive situations, but are too traumatized and terrified to try and escape.
Congratulations and thanks to Karen Bartoletti who chairs the Board of Directors of SafePlace and Jack Worsten who leads the LIFT Board.
If your family is peaceful, loving and secure, give thanks to God but occasionally give some thought and concern to those families that do not have those blessings. The address for the Austin Children’s Shelter is 4800 Manor Road, Austin, Texas 78723, (512) 499-0090. SafePlace is different. For obvious reasons, they don’t give out their address but they can receive correspondence and donations at P. O. Box 19454, Austin, Texas 78760.

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What Should You Say at a Funeral?

By , August 20, 2012 4:39 am


As we walk through life together, we often hear ourselves saying strange things to each other. Because I am a parish priest, one thing that I frequently hear is people (following the death of a friend) saying, “I simply don’t know what to say to her.” Or, “I don’t have the right words when I talk to him”. In my opinion, this is an unnecessary shyness and sensitivity on the part of the speaker. You don’t have to SAY anything! You walk up to the person who has just experienced the loss, and give them a hug. If you are walking down the center aisle and you see them at the end of the pew, put a hand on their shoulder and squeeze it. Bodies speak to bodies. A grieving person can get more out of that hug than any fifty well-chosen words.

Does that mean words are not necessary? Not at all. In an extended visit, it helps strengthen the bonds and alleviate the sadness present in this situation. But what IS important, is in whatever way possible, REACH OUT, touch people, let them know that you share in some limited sense in their suffering, and that you will BE THERE. Words are not important, but presence is everything. Presence is not restricted to standing beside them. We are present with that hug, with a phone call, the scribbled notes or a solid promise to come by as soon as possible. Each of these, and many others, are forms of presence.

We always need to try and support each other and such support is especially needed in times of the loss of a loved one.

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The Union of Church and State the Right Way!

By , June 11, 2012 5:08 am


The world always has and always will be a troubled place but many of us sometimes tend to see our own particular age and place as the worst of all possible situations. “It was the best of times; it was the worst of times.” We almost always describe ones own situation in that manner. While we must be honest and forthright about the burdens and problems that face us, we also must take advantage of every cause of optimism and hope. I now see a very important cause of hope and optimism; namely, the world’s international response to the problem of human trafficking. Several times in the past I have mentioned in my blog the agonizing reality of human trafficking. One of my titles was even “Human Trafficking on IH-35” and I was delighted to see that so many people were shocked and temporarily in a spirit of disbelief.

What gives me great hope and enthusiasm is the fact that there is a growing awareness all across the planet of the horror, cruelty and destructiveness of human trafficking. It takes many forms but most of it involves forceful enslavement of young girls from poorer countries to be used as prostitutes in other countries where they are so far from home that they simply don’t have a way to escape.

A few weeks ago, there was a major conference in Rome pulled together by Bishop Patrick Lynch, Chair of the Office of Migration Policy of the Catholic Bishops’ Conference of England and Wales along with the Pontifical Council for Justice and Peace led by Cardinal Peter Turkson. In preparing for the conference, Church leaders worked closely with Human Exploitation and Organized Crime Command of Scotland Yard. They did a great job of generating interest, concern and follow-up work in other countries. Countries of origin of human trafficking, including Thailand, Nigeria, Poland, Romania, Nepal, Vietnam, China and the Czech Republic, are also developing programs and much needed responses.

This is a horrible situation and the whole world needs to confront it. I am glad to see Church organizations and governmental organizations working hand in hand in order to achieve the necessary results.

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When Charities Are Fraudulent

By , April 16, 2012 5:28 am


One of the best organizations around is the Better Business Bureau. Its principal role is to protect businesses, individuals and other generous donors and would be supporters of various charitable programs, and verify the authenticity of a project and make sure that the dollars are spent properly and according to the intention of the donors. This is a very necessary service because when this or that head of a charity operation is caught with their hands in the till, regretfully it motivates some to paint all charities with the same brush and hold back on their support.

It broke my heart two weeks ago to see that the author of Three Cups of Tea, Mr. Greg Mortenson, mismanaged the non-profit organization he had cofounded to build schools in Pakistan and Afghanistan. He raised millions of dollars for this work. He also spent millions of dollars of charity money on charter flights, family vacations and personal items.

I read Three Cups of Tea when it first came out and Mortenson did a marvelous job of describing what at the beginning was really a wonderful effort to bring education, especially to females, in these two backward countries. His early projects were tremendously successful, and his book being a best-seller motivated many people to want to join in and help the author. His organization, the Central Asian Institute, continues and aspires to do yet greater things, but they have been badly damaged by the carelessness and dishonesty of its founder. We all need to be careful as to how we utilize our charitable contributions, but we do have an never ending responsibility to use a portion of our resources to lessen the pain of this world.

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The World is a Better Place

By , March 21, 2012 4:23 am


When I was a kid in the 1930’s and ‘40’s, the nations frequently interfered with one another but it was usually on the basis of attack and invasion – Russia into Finland, Germany into Poland, Italy into Ethiopia, Japan into China and then finally the whole world was engulfed in what was truly a WORLD war. That was a terrible scene and while aggression frequently rolled over borders, as powerful nations abused weaker neighbors, no government that I knew of ever got involved in the internal problems of another country if they did not have to. Of the examples mentioned above, at the time of the invasions other nations remained neutral. While they might have criticized or condemned the attackers, they would never consider joining the fray in order to help an oppressed people.

Today is a better world! While nations were tragically slow on Rwanda, move they finally did. The United States and the U.N. stepped in dramatically in Bosnia when Serbia was attempting a modern form of ethnic cleansing. Recently, the whole world witnessed the fact that heroic revolutionaries in Libya received dramatic help from the outside world and thus toppled the tyrannical world under which the people had suffered for 40 years.

Now it is Syria! The Syrian people are suffering terribly by a government that is brutally murdering them. While citizens have the moral support of the rest of the world, the agonizing question goes on: will the outside world act to end this slaughter? I think they will because the mindset has changed across the planet and we realize that safe, developed nations don’t have the luxury of watching their neighbors being slaughtered by unjust and cruel governments.

The world is a long way from being “fixed” but we are certainly moving in the right direction.

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Most People Are Innately Generous But…

By , March 19, 2012 5:18 am

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After 56 years in the priesthood, I have seen and experienced many bad and evil things, a great deal of pain and suffering and, yes, serious sinfulness. Nevertheless, I continue to be a strong optimist and have a great deal of confidence in the innate goodness of most people. Just look at the response of the American people to international tragedies. Look at the response within our parishes when this or that problem presents itself. The initial responses are universally generous, sacrificial and make a dramatic difference in lessening the suffering that is confronted in one or another concrete situation. But how long can we maintain it?

I think that there is a tendency among us that once we have been asked to help with this or that program, need, charity, or undertaking we feel that we have properly responded and then go on to think about other things. Several times over the last two years, I have used this space to remind people about the continued suffering in Haiti. When something horrible happens the media covers it immediately and effectively, and the generous response I mention above occurs, but life moves on and gradually these horrors recede from our consciousness.

There is no evil in our forgetting the problems of yesterday. It is simply regrettable. I think we should work hard to maintain sustained assistance to difficult situations if they are not ultimately taken care of and provided for.

Let me take advantage of this opportunity to mention to you once again the Capital Area Food Bank. We know that there is hunger in the South Sudan and that there are really difficult problems in food distribution in Northern Mexico. However, we need also to be conscious of the fact that there are real serious food problems in Austin, Texas.

None of us can respond adequately to the needs that are before us but our society has gradually developed programs and organizations in which by contributing a little bit of ourselves and our resources we can make a dramatic difference. For this, I would like to mention Meals on Wheels. It is a wonderful organization that day-by-day feeds thousands of sick and elderly people who are in desperate need, not only of food but of the encouragement that comes from somebody coming to their front door, bringing warm food and, equally important, placing their arm around them and letting them know that they are remembered and loved.

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On Picking Up Your Mat!

By , February 20, 2012 4:40 am


Last Sunday’s reading from the second chapter of Mark shows how fast things move in Mark’s Gospel. We already see our Lord performing great wonders as he moves throughout the country. At the same time, those wonders are producing opposition that will ultimately result in the crucifixion of the Lord.

Jesus had just told a paralytic man that his sins were forgiven and the religious leaders of that day were up in arms. “How dare you say that! No one can forgive sins except God alone.” Jesus does not respond to that charge because he agrees with it but to just show the relationship between himself and Yahweh, Jesus says to the paralytic in front of him, “I command you. Stand up. Pick up your mat and go home.” The crowds were awestruck and the reputation of the Lord grows stronger but his enemies see this new prophet in their midst as a real threat to their status and don’t look warmly towards being undercut by this young man from Nazareth.

The sick man in this story had everything against him. He was crippled and also was marked by human frailty. In a very real way, he stands in the place for all of us. We all have material and physical problems and we need God’s help, but we also are spiritually weak and sooner or later we need God’s forgiveness. When you say your morning prayers try to visualize the voice of Jesus leaping across the centuries and saying to you, “John, pick up your mat and go.”

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St. Louise House

By , December 16, 2011 4:34 am


The other day I talked about solving a problem that many of us have about what Christmas gift to buy for whom, and how easily we could all eliminate that minor problem from our lives by simply giving either a financial gift or giving some of our time for a special type of program or ministry that helps people in need. God knows that there are enough needs and thankfully, we do have many wonderful ministries that are trying to lessen the pain that we see all around us.

My favorite is St. Louise House, an extraordinary program put together by a handful of volunteers from St. Austin’s Parish, doing social action work in the parish, especially on the street. These people became consioucs of the presence in our midst of a sizable number of homeless women who are caring fro their own children. HOMELESS WOMEN WITH CHILDREN! These courageous people decided to do something about ten years ago, and today they operate two 24-unit apartment houses, providing apartments for women that they find on the street in desperate straits.

The St. Louise House volunteers do not simply provide a roof. They endeavor to sensititze the mother to the possibilities that are ahead in her own life and what had to be done to improve their children’s chances of success. Upon entering the apartment, these challenged mothers find everything that they need inside of it- from pictures on the wall, to dishes and bed linens. When they eventually are ready to move out, they are able to take all of these belongings with them for their next home.

This magnificent work is an example of what people can acocomplish when they put together vision, generosity and hard work. May God bless all of them!

The director of St. Louise House is Sharon Bieser, and the address and telephone number are:
2026 Guadalupe Street, Austin, TX 78705. (512)302-0027
Can you help her with this extraordinary work?

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My Favorite Recipients

By , December 12, 2011 4:52 am


The other day I talked about giving Christmas gifts that reflect our concern for making this a better world. For about the last ten years I have seen a marked increase of people giving financial gifts to institutions, ministries, charities, etc. and having that recipient notify the friend who was being honored with the fact that a gift has been given in their name. It is easy, it does great work and you don’t have to buy wrapping paper. Today, I am going to list my favorite four and I will come back to each one of them over the next few days.

The first is St. Louise House, a program put together by a handful of parishioners of
St. Austin’s Parish to provide counseling, training and most of all shelter to homeless women with children. Did you get that? Homeless women WITH CHILDREN. Their address is 2026 Guadalupe Street, Austin, Texas 78705, (512) 302-0027.

My next favorite is Down Home Ranch, an extraordinary undertaking, founded and directed by Judy and Jerry Horton. The ranch is a wonderful accomplishment providing recreational opportunities for hundreds of young people burdened with Down Syndrome and it also provides housing for several dozen full-time. What an achievement. Their address is 20250 FM 619, Elgin, Texas 78621, (888) 926-2253.

Meals on Wheels – always one of my favorites. This program brings hot meals and the wonderful comfort of home visits to thousands in Central Texas and hundreds of thousands across the country. What would the recipients do without it? With hunger increasing in our midst, the need is greater than ever. Can you help today? Their address is 3227 East 5th Street, Austin, Texas 78702, (512) 476-6325

Next comes Casa Marianella, an extraordinary program developed by generous individuals. They maintain five houses, two for men and three for women and children, who are recent arrivals from foreign countries and not yet settled in. Their address is 821 Gunter Street, Austin, Texas 78702, (512) 385-5571.

These are difficult times and some people are really suffering. All of us should chip in together in an effort to lessen the pain. Congratulations to Jack Brown for Coats for Kids and to the police department for Blue Santa, the Austin American Statesman for spotlighting cases of special need. So, thanks be to God, it goes on and on. Each one of us must ask ourselves what are WE doing.

Our Christmas celebration would be happier if we share God’s gifts with others.

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